Every child, every parent, every family is different. 

before I got pregnant, I never realized how "passionate" some folks can get about this topic...my question is: why people so angry/judgmental about MY choices as a mother? This is not meant for my friends who love me and give me even-toned, thoughtful advice. This is for the folks who bust into my attention space with unsolicited, unwarranted opinions (NOT FACTS) & insinuate that I'm irresponsible.  I thank the MOST HIGH that I have friends who support me--even those who don't agree with my point of view

Below, is advice from other mommas that have been helpful to me!
"my mom is a pediatrician, but she would not agree on the no vaccine thing and I don't either. while I totally agree with the premise that big pharma is only interested in profit and should not be trusted I have yet to see any evidence anywhere, despite looking, that vaccines do anything other than help protect against some really nasty things. they aren't perfect or infallible, but they are the best option available. if you guys want to hold off and get them a little later I don't think that's a big deal."
" Ive denied immunizations been fine. Til this day her pediatrician at the Family Health & Birthing center will still let me know her views on immunizations. We see her Pediatrician 1 a yr now and that's for her annual check up. Do whats best for you and make an INFORMED decision. I also had [my child] home with me for the first 3 months of her life. If you're worried about the little one catching something, make sure you stock up on vitamins and eating well because breast milk is a childs best defense for a newborn"
"[My son] has not had vaccinations since he was one, because they wanted to "catch him up" when he fell behind. [A friend] worked at the state dept for Medicaid and saw increased autism with vaccinations. You may also want to look up Tracy Freeman MD who is a well noted holistic health dr in the DC area. She has an autistic son who developed the symptoms after his shots. Patrice hasn't gotten any for [her daughter] so far. Because so many parents don't even know they have that option, children who's parents choose not to have their kids immunized are protected by herd immunizations because there is no where from the diseases to come from. The # of shots for these kids has more than tripled since we were kids."
"I don't support immunization shots. [My daughter] is 16 and I've had to fight with school and such behind the 'shots' thing. You can get vitamin k from veggies and, I'm not familiar with the eye drops (?) There are so many alternatives to to what western medicine says is necessary."
"[My child] had 6 months shots today and my cousin just had her babies and I wish you can witness a typical hospital birth. Nothing is evasive and you have control over your situation. Even when they are older- my cousin got her babies' shots spread out- I do some of theirs especially those with the same dosage. But i def ask for orals."
"We didn't immunize. Our pediatrician (a husband and wife team), Drs. Marilyan and Frederick Corder (they have offices in Cheverly and Bowie) support our decisions and have been the doctors of many of the people I know whose parents decided against immunization. I always tell folks to do their research as you are doing and stay informed. You are going to get a lot of push back but I stay firm in my decision and don't let any one sway. You will see that with the dentist as well when they want to give the kids flouride treatments. My dentist cornered me one day after we declined (again) and I had to tell her that if she was going to pressure us we would find someone who respected our choice. She backed down after that."
"The risks for the eye drops are limited (quantitatively) and you def want your child to have them as infection is higher; especially in a medical facility. There is a huge argument on how much pain is actually traumatic for babies, but def ask for the oral if there is that option for whatever medication that your child needs. I do even with their immunizations because there are orals for more than a few medications. I def am on the side that I believe the mother's health and hereditary health ultimately determine what happens to babies due to medications and what not. Like, I'm asthmatic and allergic to about everything so i see it in my kids: eczema, allergies and what not."
"this is one of those really touchy topics, and i don't want to fight about it. i think it's imperative to ask questions and to really do your research. for a less medical, but i think pretty even handed treatment of the issue, check out the segment this american life did awhile back (i'm sure it'll come up if you google "this american life vaccines"). at this point, heard immunity is become less and less of a fail safe. there are increasing numbers of outbreaks of deadly diseases (that doctors now a days often don't even recognize because they had been all but wiped out) because people aren't vaccinating and heard immunity is failing. obviously it's a choice parents make because they love their kids and want to protect them, however there is an incredible amount of misinformation about the issue. every physician i have spoken to about it (mom included) wants to strangle jenny mccarthy, et al, for the disservice they've done to the public by promoting the vaccine-autism link without adequate scientific evidence. the doctor who had originally published the article that kicked the whole thing off has since retracted it. i'm not a fan of big pharmaceuticals and certainly don't trust them, but i don't think this is where they're really screwing us. if i come across evidence to the contrary i'm open to it, but i have yet to see anything that convinced me even a little bit not to proceed with a normal vaccine schedule."
 


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grammar man
03/08/2013 11:44pm

too many typos, sweety

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Patrice
03/27/2013 6:19am

The critism does not end at pregnancy... well meaning family, friends and other random individuals will question your choices too. In my life with a 4 year old and a 10 month food is the issue... I do not like people feeding my kids junk. I am flexible with my 4 year old because he is older and I can't control everything he eats forever. The 10 month old is non-negotiable. People want to feed infants candy, ice cream and cheetos? Why is beyond me. When my 4 year old was younger I would let people know that I would prefer he did not have those things because I did not feed him those things and they would give it to him anyway, claiming it is ok in moderation and that he should be able to enjoy those things. With my 10 month old I do not plan on being nice to other people concerning my baby's health. It is difficult because people do not take it serious, people will attempt to sneak my baby food and that is disrespectful in my opinion. So yes, I agree we need to respect each other's choices because we are all doing what we feel is best.

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